Doms
From Wikipedia:
Definition of Master/slave (BDSM)
In BDSM, Master/slave or M/s is a relationship in which one individual (the submissive) gives to another (the dominant) ultimate authority over them. It is a form of dominance and submission. The participants may be of any gender or sexual orientation. The relationship is structured in terms of slavery, because of the association of the term with ownership of the slave and the rights of a master to their body, as property or chattel. The dominant is often called Master if male, or Mistress if female. The owner/slave relationship is usually entered into on a consensual basis, without the legal force of historical or modern non-consensual slavery, which is forbidden by the laws of most countries.
Talking with hubby about Doms, he has concluded that they are very similar to husbands. They take care of their sub, as do husbands take care of their wife. Always caring for his family & wife. Managing money, house, food, sex (of course sex). But then the wife takes care of the husband, which also sounds similar to a sub. The sub cares for his needs, wants and desires. And the Dom fulfills these desires for the sub also. I guess our D/s relationship being so new and being married for over 15 years sort of changes the way we look at Doms and subs and BDSM lifestyle. I guess we will always be working on our relationship either marriage or BDSM.
D/s points of view & ‘logic of the relationship’ has fascinated me over recent months: I consider it to be a form of leadership role.
There’s always different types of leadership from diplomatic to tyrannical. It’s so easy to see where leaders apply different tactics to get things done in order to prevent chaos or loss of faith in the leader. There are also times when leaders need to have their followers take control.
The key difference in a D/s versus marriage is terms. Marriage is very open through vows: a poorly written contract. “To be with each other no matter what & until death….”
D/s on the other hands gives each party some basic boundaries. And it’s not as if we can’t revisit certain boundaries when it seems appropriate either…
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